When Your Father Can’t Walk You Down the Aisle

It’s a tradition for a father to walk his daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. However, what if for some reason your father can’t or even won’t walk you down the aisle. What is your alternative?

When you walk down the aisle at your wedding in Melbourne, you are walking away from your past and toward your new future. When your hand is put into your groom’s hand you no longer belong to anyone but your husband, by your choice. The person who walks with you on this journey is an important choice also though.  If your father is deceased, you have alternate choices. You can include his memory in the ceremony by having your uncle or grandfather walk you down the aisle. You could also choose a close friend of your father’s to do the honor or a sibling to walk you down the aisle. If you feel that your dad’s shoes can’t be filled by anyone else, you can always walk alone.

If your mother has remarried and your stepfather raised you and he’s important to you, consider him as an option. If you always felt you had two father figures, your father and your stepfather, they both could walk you. You could have your stepfather walk you part way and hand you over to your father. Your father would then walk you down the aisle and give you to your groom. If your biological father hasn’t been in the picture much and your stepfather has raised you, then there could be issue. Your biological father may feel he has the right since he’s your father. You may feel since your stepfather has raised you, you are closer to him. Remember, you’re the bride and it’s your decision to make. Make a decision you’ll be happy with, and don’t let petty, selfish people spoil your day if anyone has an issue with your choice.

If you were raised by a single mother and your dad has never been around, then you may have a different choice. You could honor your mother by asking her to walk with you. If it was a joint effort and you were raised by your mom and her family, you could ask an extended family member. Also if you have a brother, consider asking him to do the honors. If you haven’t any close family members and have been on your own, you can walk alone down the aisle. This can symbolize your independence and that you chose your groom at the aisle’s end to share life with; that you’ll have someone by your side from here on out.

Because you are the bride, you can make any decision you want to on who it is you want to accompany you down the aisle. And don’t compromise with what you want so as to make your family happy if it makes you sad. Don’t fret about other people that you only see on holidays anyway if they make problems. Don’t allow any family drama to interfere with your happiness. When you take your groom’s hand at your wedding venue in Melbourne, your new life begins and that’s what the day is all about.

Wedding Etiquette the Second Time Around

He finally proposed to you, and you happily accepted the gorgeous diamond. It’s the second marriage for both of you and now you’re thinking about all the wedding plans that will have to be made. Is there a wedding etiquette you need to follow? Or does anything go? Actually, it’s a little of both.

What is correct remarriage etiquette?

There are several things to consider when you plan to remarry. Take for instance the engagement announcement. If either or both of you have children, they should be told first. This remarriage is going to affect their lives to the most extent. If you’re thinking about them being a part of the wedding, you have to see how they actually feel about the whole deal. Next you tell the good news to your parents and your immediate family. Then you tell your friends and other relatives.

So what about a bridal shower? Well that’s entirely up to you. You may already have all the stuff you need to set up a house; however that doesn’t mean you can’t throw a get together or a party with friends and family to celebrate the upcoming event. Even at that, a friend may want to throw you a theme shower, perhaps themed around the kitchen in your new home. Or there can be a party with no gifts involved, just food, drinks and a fun time.

What about the wedding itself?

There aren’t too many hard and fast rules for second weddings venues. You can wear white if you choose to. You can also wear a cocktail dress, or a suit or any color you choose. The only rule really is about the veil. A veil with a blusher attached is strictly for first time brides. You can still have attendants, but usually it’s a more limited amount of people in the wedding. After all, six matching bridesmaids all in a row is usually done the first time around. Usually a second wedding is a bit more low key and informal. Your father can escort you down the aisle or you can walk down the aisle yourself. Sometimes second wedding couples walk down the aisle together. You can even include your children in the wedding if they’re comfortable with it. You can have your daughter be an honor attendant or your son can walk you down the aisle. The groom could choose his son to be the best man at the wedding venue in Melbourne.

Who pays for a second wedding?

A first wedding is usually paid for by the bride’s family traditionally. A second wedding is not. Believe it or not, who does pay for the second wedding can set the tone for the future marriage. If the bride pays for the entire wedding, she may be setting herself up for paying most of the expenses of the marriage. If half the wedding is paid for by the bride, then the tone of the marriage will be for financial equality. If the bride pays what she can, then the tone is set for paying what she can throughout the marriage.

Getting remarried is the start of a new life, and the wedding is the point at which it starts. Make sure you start it out in the right direction and continue onto future happiness.